Enneagram Type 4w3: The Aristocrat (An Overview)
This article will look at the personality type of the enneagram type 4w3 by studying its basic fears, desires, personality traits as well as its strengths and weaknesses in order to help the audience develop a deeper understanding of this enneagram!
What Is The Enneagram Type 4w3?
The enneagram type 4w3 is known as the ‘Aristocrat’ and even sometimes as the ‘Enthusiast’. They are one of the enneagram types that are known for their sensitivity and introspection.
These individuals like to keep some distance between themselves and others not because of the reason that they dislike people but because they realize they are sensitive and vulnerable. As a result they may seem aloof or self centered but can be very expressive at times. Sometimes they may even seem dramatic or moody! However, they are usually very careful in their dealings with others and prefer to maintain a safe distance.
These enneagram types like to spend time in their head; they are pretty creative and come up with many unique and interesting ideas that can encourage new things or help solve problems. The aristocrat is also emotionally honest and realizes what they feel; they will be expressive but can sometimes be considered moody. However, the same enneagram type can engage in self pity and persistent feelings of sadness. They are also too indulged in their own selves and may not notice what is going on around them.
The Personality Of The Aristocrat!
In this section we will look at the basic fear and desire of the enneagram type 4w3 after which we will shine light on their major personality traits.
Basic Fear.
The basic fear of this enneagram is that they will have no identity and hence not be known by others, instead they will remain in the shadows where they are a ‘nobody’. They want to be somebody hence they perceive themselves as someone who is special or different from others and this compensates for their fear of being without an identity.
The aristocrat personality is scared they will be meaningless; this means they won’t have any purpose or identity with which they can define themselves. Their thoughts become so negative that they feel they will never live the life other people live because they have no importance in life; they look down upon themselves. Enneagrams of this type describe this feeling as if they are invisible and feel this feeling will always last.
They engage in an interesting way of life to feel as if they are someone and not just someone but someone special. They begin to perceive themselves as if they are different and cannot be understood by other people; they are too unique or complex or too different to be relative to normal people hence they must live in a different manner. However, deep down, these individuals actually wish they could be like others. Oftentimes, they do this because they can’t get what they want in life and hence rationalize this realization to protect themself.
Basic Desire.
It is now obvious what the desire is of the typical aristocrat personality; they want to possess an identity that they can be known or recognized by so that they hold some meaning in life. This will help them achieve what it is in life whether it is their dream job, the relationships they have always wanted or the lifestyle they wanted to adopt.
In the meanwhile, the enneagram engages in active imagination and fantasizing to realize the perfect image of their own self. They create the perfect me to see who they really want to be.
It is important to note that this enneagram type also wants to be unique and not just like everybody else. This is somewhat contradictory to the entire issue they face; they want to be like others to enjoy what they have but at the same time be different enough to be known individually. They will try to change their own selves or point out others for their mistakes. The aristocrat may also incorporate changes in their appearance to stand out.
What Are The Traits Of An Enthusiast?
- Paradoxical Nature
- Creative
- Energetic
- Self aware
- Emotional
Let us take a look at each trait in detail.
Paradoxical Nature.
Like it was said, these individuals are emotionally honest hence they accept what they feel and express themselves. This can be quite confusing for them as well as others but it is something that happens. These enneagram types know what it means to have an ironic nature. They are able to be two opposite things at the same time like funny and serious. However, what is more concerning or of more importance is that they can be emotionally strong and vulnerable at the same time.
These individuals put up a good fight when it comes to the emotions they are feeling. They are not scared of looking deep inside themselves to see what is wrong nor are they scared of accepting how they feel or think.,They go through a lot of turmoil as they are persistently facing tough times but understand they need to remain strong. Yes this is exhausting but they assure themselves by the fact that they are unique and hence it comes to them more hard. The strong ones always have the most difficult experiences according to them.
Creative.
These individuals are gifted with being creative! They like to do things differently and can come up with a surprisingly interesting number of ideas that appeal to the human intellect! The main driver behind this is that they want to stand out and be unique or different when compared to others to reinforce their deeply held belief of being special or unique.
People with this enneagram type can bring much color into the professions they work in due to their thinking skills. They can help bring better solutions to the table, differentiate the company they work for from other competitors and create an appeal in their products or services so don’t take them for granted!
Energetic.
It is interesting that despite the complex feelings and thoughts they have, these individuals are still very active and energetic! This is because they realize that they must work hard and be up to date in order to achieve what it is they want.
Self Aware.
Although this trait may intensify their habit of self pity and self indulgence, it allows them to understand who they are; this is possible because of their excellent intrapersonal skills and their trait of emotionally being honest.
These individuals are aware of their emotional state, what types of thoughts they are having and how their body feels currently. Why? Because they are self aware which means they can understand themselves better. Although this can be scary it is a huge tool that can be used to care for oneself.
If type 4w3 enneagrams can make use of their self awareness, they can empower themselves through their thoughts particularly and harness motivation within themselves to get more tasks done.
Being self aware helps one help themself. They can fight off irrational thoughts and understand why they are feeling a certain way hence if they have the will they can fight off any mood swings they feel.
Emotional.
These individuals are quite emotional. They are in touch with their inner selves and let the emotions flow when they have to. They are not scared of what they feel; if they are sad they will feel it and if they are happy they will feel it and both of these states will be apparent.
People who fall under this category give much weightage to how they feel and this may interrupt how they think or prevent them from making rational decisions.
Strengths.
The Type 4w3 enneagram has the following strengths:
- Emotionally Honest
- High Emotional IQ
- Inspiring
Emotionally Honest.
Because of their deep inner connection, these individuals have formed the habit of being honest and not only with themselves but with others too. They like to say what the truth is and do not want to lie. This is what they choose to do even with themself and it has a good effect on how they interact with others as well.
High Emotional IQ.
If used correctly, they can be very empathetic because they are able to understand their own emotions and those of others. They understand the state a person is in and are able to determine what it is they need or how to approach them because they have high emotional intelligence.
Inspiring.
Despite their bad traits such as self pity and rationalizing things instead of accepting them as they are, the aristocrat personality is inspiring in how they view themselves and how they are motivated to achieve their goals. They accept their own self and view their self image in a positive manner.
Weaknesses.
- Moody
- Doubt Themselves
- Need Assurance & Approval From Others
Moody.
In times of hardship, type 4w3 enneagrams may react hershey due to their emotional instability and this may surprise others. They are not rude or mean but sometimes they can become overwhelmed.
Doubt Themselves.
They become victims of their thoughts and feelings and may doubt themselves. They may feel they have not completed a task properly or have not met standards; they may feel they are not working hard enough or have done something to hurt another person.
Need Assurance & Approval From Others.
Yes people with this type of enneagram have the habit of seeking the approval of others to feel reassured and remove any self doubts they have!
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Conclusion.
This article took a look at the major personality traits of the enneagram type 4w3 and also highlighted their basic fear and desire. Furthermore, the article discussed the strengths and weaknesses of the enneagram to help the audience develop a more comprehensive understanding.
Frequently Asked Questions: Enneagram Type 4w3: The Aristocrat.
What does type 4w3 mean?
It defines the combination of the enneagram type 4 and type 3.
Who is enneagram type 4?
Enneagram type 4 is someone who is emotionally honest, moody, aspiring and observant.
What type of person should enneagram type 4 marry?
The enneagram type 4 should marry someone who is inspiring like them and understands their own self and others..
References.
https://www.crystalknows.com/enneagram/type-4-wing-3
https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-4
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